by Millie Manahan
Potty training is perhaps one of the most stressful stages of parenting. From dealing with tantrums to choosing which way best suits your child, could be really demanding. Having two or more children doesn’t make one an expert. I know, because I have four and every child had their own version. The first two kids gave me tremendous headaches, but the third and fourth did it seamlessly.
Anyhow, had I known these 5 best potty training tips before, I wouldn’t have these strands of white hair today. Here we go:
1. Wait for the right time.
It is imperative for both parent and child to be physically and emotionally ready. Essentially, the best time to potty train a child is between 1.8 and 2.5 years old or 22 months to 30 months. However, this varies as every child is different. Here are some basic signs:
- If your child has developed routine or bowels have occurred on a regular schedule.
- If s/he doesn’t poop at night.
- Nappy is dry after taking a nap.
- Child is making facial expressions – like squatting if he feels like peeing or doing the #2.
Child asks you to change his dirty nappy.
- No tantrums and easier to please.
- Child insists on NOT wearing his nappy anymore.
- Insists on just wearing his underwear.
- Shows eagerness in joining you in the bathroom.
I suggest keeping a track of your child’s progress to help you conclude his/her readiness.
2. Be involved – talk to your tots.
Majority of our children’s love language is quality time. Hence, talk to them by explaining why wearing nappies should end soon. Besides, they are just 2-year old kids that don’t know anything yet but to eat, play, and sleep! Consider explaining what a toilet is, how it’s used, what is it for, and why grown-ups, use it. This way, they will have a clear understanding or idea that s/he has to do the same thing.
3. It’s all about the Praise – no Trouble!
Every little progress is a milestone for both. It could be as simple as them letting you know they missed the toilet and peed on the floor, or wasting a lot of tissue. Either way, it’s a milestone! When you affirm their progress, it boosts their confidence level, as well as, eagerness to be better next time. With that, we as parents are consequently relaxed rather than being pressured with all the troubles they made. So, words of affirmation help ace this stage! Significantly, when you praise them, it’s as good as giving yourself a pat on the back, too!
4. Choose the right potty for your child
Satisfying their needs could be one of your gateways to potty train them perfectly. Perhaps, giving them a Sofia the 1st design would make her feel like a princess or an Iron Man for your boy would suffice, too. I reckon using a generic one and little did we know our son wanted an Elmo toilet seat, after all! Feed your children’s fantasies by letting them choose or check out some toilet seat products here.
5. Understanding their fear
This is the right time for you to put your investigative skills to the test. Analyze your child’s reason why s/he still couldn’t do it. If, for example, your child has reached the maximum age of the training period, don’t fret. Rather, understand them by knowing the reason behind their fears. As shared by Lauren Wiener from Parents Magazine, she couldn’t understand why her son can pee smoothly and yet having a hard time doing the #2. She found out that other children view bowels as a piece of their body, which isn’t pleasant for her son. When she learned about it, she started explaining how digestive system works, and the rest was history. Evidently, understanding your child/children’s fear of not going to the toilet could save you a lifetime!
Just like any other parenting chapter, potty training also deserves an ample time and a lot of patience. Although, accidents may happen every now and then, it can be eliminated if done properly and cautiously. Normally, it takes about 3 months depending on the child. Girls usually are trained months earlier than boys.
Potty training is considered a pivotal stage for both parents and children. Enjoy those precious moments by taking it one step at a time.
Aside from being a work at home and homeschooling mom, Millie Manahan keeps busy running her blog, Not Your Ordinary Mom. A blog where she shares her inspiring stories about homeschooling, family, parenting, food and photography. She also believes that everyone is unique and says she’s never been happier when she quit her customer service job to fully embrace the role of motherhood. Her mantra, carpe diem, helped her realize, that life is too short to say no to opportunities.